I take you to be my wife
to have and to hold from this day forward
for better or for worse
for richer, for poorer
in sickness and in health
to love and to cherish
from this day forward until death do us part.
A great man of character no longer walks this earth, but instead bows in the presence of God this day. He vowed his life to the love of his life. Though it took many years to bring all these promises to fruition, yesterday that last promise was fulfilled… until I breathed my last.
Their marriage was precious. It was filled by many years of learning how to love, child raising, loving and serving God together, watching grandchildren grow up into adults, watching great-grandchildren take their first steps. Many years of faithfulness. Many years of joy. Many years of hardship. Many years of God making them stronger together then alone.
Until his last breath…. he kept the promise he made to her before God. Until his last breath, he chose to love her, his Bride.
We don’t celebrate the older generation nearly enough. They didn’t dump their spouses during hard years / crisis moments. They pushed thru in faithfulness and held their hearts steady and chose to love their Love.
Countless TV shows and films are wrapped up in that one 24 hr day, The Wedding. And in every family tv show/ film there is a marriage that is broken, an affair that is okay-ed.
Here’s my question: where are the films that celebrate those who actually took the words of their vows more seriously then their short lived wedding party? Where are the re-countings of the couples who practiced fidelity vs those who flaunted their infidelity?
The other day I read a quote by an old couple that were commenting on their 50+ year marriage. It read: “We grew up in a day when you fixed what was broken. Now you just throw it away.”
Might I add… We now live in a day where selflessness is inconceivable, being patient is all but practiced, having the right perspective of who you really is a foreign concept, gentleness is rare, withholding anger is inconceivable, honest kindness is seldom, true forgiveness is hard to come by, and genuine love…. genuine love would offer all of these traits and bind them up in perfect unity. For you see, these are the virtues that birth healing in any broken relationship. The lack thereof is what we see rapid today.
While you might be married or single, I don’t know. Yet I strongly believe that the character qualities that make up a great marriage can also be cultivated in any single person. Until death do us part…. we have character to build. And we have much we can learn – from those who, thankfully, came from a day ‘n age where you fixed what was broken, and took seriously the vow you made before God.